Monday, 27 June 2011

Would you......Dial A Man?

I watched "The Wedding Date" the other evening. A RomCom where a single woman hires a male escort to accompany her to her sisters wedding weekend in order to make her ex jealous.  I can think of many reasons to hire a male escort but stirring the "green eyed monster" in former partners is not one of them.  However it got me thinking about these men who hire themselves out to women of varying ages, occupation and status. Their role is simple enough....remain attentive, engage in intelligent conversation, listen to their "date" and look smart and handsome whilst pretending to be an "old friend", "business associate" or whatever else is necessary to convince the onlookers that he is with her through choice and not for financial gain. Discretion is paramount unless of course you are happy to introduce "Julian" as the man you've hired for the evening because you can't find a decent looking man of your own!

There are, however, those women who are avid escort users.  They do not  have the time or energy to deal with conventional dating methods but enjoy no strings male company where she is completely in control.
There are numerous online sites and agencies. From those who just want an innocent dinner date and would never pay for any "optional extras", to those who slip him an extra few pounds and he'll be escorting you to the nearest hotel room for what is basically paid sex. Females are not the only customers of male escorts but men too who are typically between 40 and 60, very wealthy and exist in a world where money literally buys anything. For these last two types however, the title "male escort" is really just a smokescreen for a "male prostitute" and "rent boy".

Is it better than a "one night stand"? Well it's likely to be healthier and safer (most escorts carry condoms) and you're guarateed a good time.  Maybe I should try it myself ( strictly for research purposes only of course)!
Is it morally right? This depends on the person doing the hiring and being hired. If it rests easy in your mind and no one gets hurt then I guess why not?

It is in principle a business relationship where both parties involved know exactly what to expect and what is expected. Money doesn't even change hands as this is prepaid to the agency.

But there is an element of double standards here. Whether you like it or not, whether its wrong or right, lets face it...if a woman buys sex the man is a male escort,  but if a man buys sex the woman is deemed to be a prostitute. 

Sunday, 19 June 2011

36 month glitch.........!

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According to recent studies in the UK the 7 year itch has now become the 3 year glitch. This is the time that stress levels in relationships peak and the first flushes of romance have well and truly disappeared down the toilet! Those minor irritations that are harmless, almost funny and cute at the start of love develop into major annoyances which fuel arguments, cause the slamming of doors and force the back to back sleeping position. Yes we've all been there at some point in a relationship when your gorgeous adorable "sweet cheeks" becomes a vile monstrous specimin all because the toilet seat is left up, the top left off of the toothpaste or dirty socks abandoned on the bedroom floor. Little nuances which were once overlooked and readily dismissed when the rose tinted glasses were on and love really was blind.

The top 10 everyday niggles and passion killers in relationships are defined as follows;
  1. Weight gain/lack of exercise.
  2. Money & Spend thriftiness 
  3. Anti Social working hours
  4. Hygiene issues, personal cleanliness
  5. In Laws & extended family seeing too much/too little of.
  6. Lack of romance (sex, treats etc)
  7. Alcohol - drinking too much
  8. Snoring and anti social behaviour
  9. Lapsed fashion sense - losing touch with fashion & wearing the same old underwear/clothes
  10. Bathroom habits failing to lock doors, stray toenail cuttings, cleaning up etc  
 As I look down this list I see clearly that there is a correlation between these points. Each irritation is the cause and effect:

Weight gain is inevitable. Going out to dinner, sharing take aways, curled up together watching a movie eating ice cream, pop corn , chocolate etc will all contribute to that expanding waistline. Once realisation hits that you literally eating the contents of your bank account then common sense prevails and cut backs are introduced hence the need to watch the pennies and decrease the spending. Cue the arguments over how much was spent in the hair salon and the night out with the lads. In addition to keeping the wolf from the door, extra money needs to be earnt and what does that mean? Yep you guessed it....anti social working hours of course! And if your working all the hours in the day, who has the time and energy to devote hours and hours in the bathroom?? Enter # 4!

So how do numbers 1 - 4 lead to # 5? Well if my gorgeous sexy partner had turned into a lardy lazy arsed, stinky pits haggered looking scrooge, I would be too embarrassed for anyone to see him or would use spending time out with my friends and family as an excuse just to get then hell away from him! # 6 - lack of romance/sex.....well do I really need to explain?? 1 - 5 have already put paid to any bedroom antics or loving gestures.

At this point you are now in a relationship with no sex, no money and no time together so there's only one thing for it....alcohol!! You've been driven to it. Drowning your sorrows or getting blind drunk to block out the reality! Bring on # 8! Excessive drinking leads to anti social behaviour and a drunken slumber leads to loud body shaking snoring.
# 9 & 10 I'm sure you can figure out yourself but I think I've made my point. 

The slow demise of a relationship stems from the beginning.  This knock on effect sequence snowballs and gets out of control.....however only if you let it. If I've learnt anything from past relationships it is  focus more on what he/she does well and don't sweat the small stuff!

Sunday, 12 June 2011

My Second Award!

A second award was bestowed on me some days ago....I am a little remiss to ackowledge it but would like to thank Kelly from Psychocarnival: for this honour.Greatly appreciated!! Now you never know what you are going to get from this guy, I guess that's why the word "Psycho" feature in his blog title. Most of his posts are not for the faint hearted or anyone who offends easily, yet other posts are full of sensitivity  giving him an edgy appeal. If you want a good laugh then visit his blog NOW!
Having received this award I am to also mention another 5 bloggers who I feel are noteworthy of this accolade which is about supporting other fellow bloggers.  So here goes.............

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